Tree

Do you know how hard it is to find the right tree in the right field? There aren't a lot of scenes like that out there. 

Chester Alley

My wife is from Chester, S.C. We met when she was working at a local drugstore and I was just starting (first day on the truck actually) with Coca-Cola. That's a story for another time and it doesn't put either of us in a good light. Our first meeting was a confrontation. Hah! We really didn't like each other at the beginning. 

We have grown on each other, I guess you would say.

No. This isn't our story.

This is about something else I gained besides a wife and children.

Chester, S.C. is in, I would guess, the north western part of the state. When I was driving for Coke I got to know the town well. It was very busy then, just twenty years ago. Now it's a shadow of what is was, even then.There's an old theater called The Chester Little Theater. It is reportedly haunted. The wife has been there. The group she was with decided to use a Quija board. And that's where I'm done. I don't touch those things.

I've never been inside. I don't think I want to go inside. 

The alley beside the theater interests me.

I love old brick. And metal. And glass. Left to its own. Nature begins to take over even in a city setting.
 

Black and white really lends to something like this. You get a better feel, for what I'm seeing anyway. I wonder if someone ever lived up there? Coming out on the fire escape at night for a smoke or to listen to the city bustling below. Maybe the fire escape had to be used for its intended purpose? Perhaps the ghosts of those folk were climbing hurriedly down that ladder even as I was standing there taking the picture. Trapped in that little piece of time. Looping over and over. Or peeking back at me as I peek through their window.

And the things that are always left behind get me. Old pieces of equipment, old bottles, coins, etc. I've found whole safes before out wandering around. Locked and their combinations probably lost to time in the head or pocket of the man or woman in charge of them. And it makes me sad that I'll never know what kind of treasure I've missed out on. 

There is so much more to this little town in the way of its architecture. I have to get back there soon. 

It's a big old world and I can only photograph part of it. So here is a small part of the part you didn't get to photograph. Share yours with me.

Friendship

A couple of weeks ago a man in the neighborhood passed away. He was young and had a wife and two sons that loved him very much. My son was already friends with his older son.

The older son started going to church with us after vacation bible school was over with. We text ahead and stop by to pick him up. He's a sweet kid. I try not to feel sorry for him and instead try to make his time with us fun.

But that's not what I am writing about.

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Friendship, you think you are friends with people and you're probably not. More often than not you are a prop in the backdrop of their lives. You would be surprised at how little people think of you.

In real life I have a couple of real friends, two that I see often enough. A couple of others I haven't seen for years, but we were in the army together and some bonds don't break. I tend to keep to myself when I'm not online. I'm just that way.

Some people need others to make themselves feel like they're worth something, that they are worthy of the attention given them. Or is it the other way around and people want to feel like they're doing someone else a favor by hanging out with them?

I guess it's both.

I've never been one to worry too much about what people think. I truly believe that if you are meant to be someones friend you just are. There are no requirements. It just happens.

And sometimes it just ends.

I've seen several people part ways in friendships this week. The ones that I am friends with are taking it hard. Some realize where they have failed, some have no idea what happened. Some know exactly what happened and are, again, extremely disappointed with the results of the work it takes to make a bond with someone, a real friendship, being thrown away. Some of these "breakups" have been helped along by other people.

I just don't get when someone offers friendship and another person doesn't take the time and the care to tend that after it has been accepted. It's not that hard. You listen, you commiserate, you share in joy as well as despair. That's part of what friendship is. That's probably the most important part, the sharing of the thing.

I am glad that I am not one of the ones suffering this week. The few friendships that I maintain are strong. With two kids and a wife I don't have time for many other things in life. My wife is my best friend. That's that. She shares in everything that happens to me by default.

The word for today is acquaintance. 

Noun 1. A person known to one, but not usually a close friend.

Check out your online life and even the people you've met because of those online relationships. It could be because of a game. I've been lucky with a few. I met +Wally Turbeville because of a game. (See geocaching) We meet on and off for breakfast and have an hour or so to sit and chat and have a little fellowship. We are comfortable with each other. It has taken years but I count Wally as a true friend. I am comfortable around him. I am comfortable with my children around him. Wally is comfortable enough with me to entrust personal things about himself and I am with him. That's a friendship. He gives me guidance in things he has already learned, I give him guidance in newer things. It's a give and take but there is more give than take.

Then there's Walters. Oh, man.

I met +Jason Walters through Google+. Actually I circled his wife Lee and he warned her against me cause "you don't know what kind of freaks are out there" and "that guy has a camera". But it wasn't long before he succumbed to my charm and we met up for lunch one day. I think it's actually been a little over a year since that first meet up and we actually became real friends. Really quick. He confides in me. And I him. I am honored that he would do so given the short time we have known each other. (Sometimes being someone's friend is meant to be. See above.)

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But Sam, my son, and his friend Gabe, they don't have the worries we do. They're just friends. They see each other and each lights up. They don't have that problem with hugging each other that men do or with grabbing each others hands. There's no guy rules here. 

They're just friends.

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Today I had to go to a funeral here in town. One of the members of our church, his mother passed away. I've known him most of his life. His little girl is also a friend of my sons.

I went through the line after the ceremony to pay my respects to the family. I admit that I was mostly there for her. She's six. But she is the sweetest little girl and she makes me laugh. We find each other on Sundays at church and goof around. 

She looked up and saw me and asked, "What are you doing here?"

I responded, "I came to make sure my friend was okay. And to pay respects to her Grandma."

She said, "You mean me!"

She's my friend. She might be six and I might be forty-six but friends is friends. 

And friends we are.

People fall away in life. You aren't on the same path. I'm not saying your path is any better than anyone else's. But I'm not saying it's worse. Only you can make that choice. Where you are in life determines who you are and who's with you. 

I've been pretty lucky. I've done things I'm not proud of. But I've come back. And I can't really blame anyone but myself. But I can pat myself on the back for being able to choose those I allow to be in my life.

And, like Frost said, that has made all the difference.

Posessed?

Every once in a great while, I will get into a cleaning mood.

I don't mean just dusting and sweeping up a bit. I mean I get into a cleaning frenzy. I move furniture and scrub walls and cabinets, slide the oven out and clean the sides, all but remove the flooring. That kind of frenzy.

I'm Southern Baptist. I don't believe as some religions do about demonic possession and such. I do believe for there to be a God then there is a Devil. There is evil in the world. Real evil.

But there is also good.

My mother-in-law passed away several years ago. She drove me crazy. She was a "demon" as far as her cleaning and her house was always just so, no matter what.

I think God gives her a pass once a month and lets her come down and possess me. That's the day I go nuts cleaning.

She was a good woman and I did love her. And as far as mother-in-laws go and all the horror stories you hear about them, I had a great one.

I was just thinking about this as I was cleaning the cabinet doors and scrubbing around the base boards in my kitchen a bit ago.

Carry on.

Begin

wan·der

ˈwändər/

verb

1. 1.

   walk or move in a leisurely, casual, or aimless way

Wandering is mostly what this will be about. I was hoping to have a friend contribute to this as well, he liked to wander and was one of the few people that I felt a connection with in that respect. He got what it meant to be alone and discover old places new to you. He knew what it was like to be comfortable only on this side of the lens, on this side of the screen. To be unknown.

And then, suddenly, he passed away. And I mourned as best I could for a person who was my friend but whom I had never met in person. And the world continued. It spun a bit more slowly for a bit, things and feelings pass and you don't forget people but you learn to go on. Don't you?

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I enjoy so many things that I sometimes think that I don't enjoy just one thing to its own fullness. That I don't appreciate the thing for what it is. That I don't give credit where credit is due. Photography, music, television (I watch too much), reading, etc.

So...

The Doctor

I am very pleased with the new Doctor. Peter Capaldi is nailing it for me and it's refreshing not to have the "pretty boy" and the crush from the companion thing going on. It was really played out quite some time ago. It takes me back to decades ago when he was the hero that rode in on a white horse to save the day and fun was always had. I loved Smith, but when the TARDIS lands and a head sticks out with just any old face you go along for the ride. I'm glad I get the chance. The new opening graphics and the new theme music also take me back. It is certainly nice to have what feels like a complete reboot. Except for the companion. And, as I don't like being spoiled, I won't spoil anyone else. But I have heard things.

Reading

Lately I have been jumping about reading amateur authors online. There's a ton out there if you look and some are light years ahead of a lot of professional authors I read. Just because you're paid doesn't mean you are good. It just means your agent is. As far as previously published works, I've been rereading the Hitchhiker series, and trying to get the nerve up to read the last of The Chronicles Of Thomas Covenant books. I have loved that series for years and I hate to see it end. I'm in the club, white gold wedding band and all. The Odd Thomas series that a friend suggested to me has turned out to be worth my while. I recommend it as well. Koontz can always hold my interest and keep me guessing.

Listening

I listen to most anything. I don't like rap. At least not anything after the 80s. 

I do love Eugene Drucker. If you've never heard of him, I hadn't either until several years ago. Drucker has one album that I can listen to over and over again and I usually do. J.S. Bach: Solo Violin Sonatas and Partitas is that album and it brings me peace and comfort. I can listen to it while doing most anything. Working in the garage or around the house, driving, shopping, etc. It even makes the crowds at Walmart bearable. 

Now you know that's good music!


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I think that's a good start. I feel good about writing this and I don't want to feel anything other than good about it. I have tried before to start and continue things like this but I feel as if I need it for a kind of therapy. If something I write here is helpful or amusing to someone else, well then I've made some kind of contribution to the world in a positive manner. And that's what we all should be doing. 

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